Not every guy has a massive erection that is at a 90 degree+ angle, clean shaven and circumcised. Not every girl has enormous, perfectly symmetrical, perfectly perky boobs with no ‘judder’ unless they have implants. Vulvas don’t come completely bald and tucked-in like a little girl with small labia.
Humans are massively varied in every aspect. I think the advent of easily accessible porn has given a false idea of what people actually look like.
Ho hum. Not sure what to say, except if someone dumped someone over the appearance of their genitals, I would doubt whether the relationship had much of a chance anyway.