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Can I use numbing cream on my vagina?

can i use numbing cream on my vaginaI want to get laser hair removal on my vagina but I have heard that it can be very sore. Can I use numbing cream on my vagina?

The skin in the vulva area is very delicate, and laser hair removal can be very painful, especially for those with a low pain threshold.

There are a number of topical anesthetic creams which are sold over the counter without a prescription, and can be used to numb the area before undergoing a session. They should generally be applied 15 – 30 minutes before the session, and they result in temporary numbness in the area, usually not lasting more than an hour.

Check with your local drugstore for topical anesthetic creams that are safe for use in sensitive areas like the vulva. It is also a good idea to read the package insert for details about side-effects and sensitivity commonly experienced with the product.

Clare xo

How to get rid of ingrown hairs on the labia

Get rid of ingrown hairs on the labiaMany women who shave or wax their vulvas suffer with ingrown hair. We have put together a quick guide on how to get rid of ingrown hairs on the labia.

Before you get started, make sure you have the following essential items close at hand:

  • Tweezers and a needle or pin. Burn the edge with a flame to sterilise it
  • Tissue paper
  • A mild disinfectant

The first step, once you have collected these items, is to take a warm shower or bath. This will help to open the hair follicles, which will make it easier to extract the ingrown hair. After the shower or bath, dry the skin in the area.

Once you have done so, the next step will be to remove the hair which is curled up under your skin. Don’t wait too long after drying the area, as the follicles must still be open when you remove the hair.

To remove the hair, gently break the skin at the top of the raised area with the sterilised needle or pin, locate the hair with the sharp point of the needle or pin, and slide the needle or pin underneath the hair to pull it to the surface of the skin.

Once enough of the hair is exposed to grab hold of it with the tweezers, use the tweezers to firmly but slowly pull it out. Wipe the area clean with the tissue paper, and apply the mild disinfectant to the area.

Apply more disinfectant once or twice a day for the next couple of days, until the skin heals – the key here is to keep the area clean to avoid infection or bacterial getting into the broken skin. You don’t want other infections in the area which can be even more unpleasant than the ingrown hair that you had before.

Once the skin in the area has healed fully, make sure that you exfoliate it regularly to avoid the ingrown hair coming back (but be gentle, as the area is delicate and can be sensitive).

My inner vagina lips get in the way during sex

I am often contacted by women who complain that “my inner vagina lips get in the way during sex” or “my labia get caught during sex”.

It is a common problem experienced by women who have labia minora that protrude from their labia majora, and it can often be a source of great anxiety and discomfort which prevents women from enjoying sex. It is, however, an issue that usually has a straightforward solution.

Check out this useful video by Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross of, two women who run a site packed with useful information about sex and masturbation. It contains some excellent tips on solving the problem:


How to hide cameltoe

How to hide cameltoe CameltoeAs you can see from my pics, when I wear yoga pants and other tight clothing, I have a very obvious cameltoe.  It is very embarassing, and I often feel as if everybody around me is noticing it. Do you have any tips on how to hide cameltoe?

Here are a few tips which might help:

  • Wear the right clothing size. Cameltoe is often caused by clothing that doesn’t fit properly, and when pants are too tight in the crotch area, this often causes cameltoe.
  • Wear other fabrics. Stretchy clothing such as spandex (which is often used in workout clothing) is one of the major culprits for causing cameltoe. You can also wear workout clothing that is lined in the crotch area.
  • Wear darker colours. White and light-coloured clothing often makes cameltoe more obvious. Dark colours, while also being slimming, help when it comes to concealing that cameltoe.
  • Avoid going commando. Wearing supportive panties often helps to avoid or minimise the appearance of cameltoe.
  • Wear pants with a lower waist. As a general rule, a higher waist means a higher chance of cameltoe being visible.
  • Wear a pantyliner. This works on a similar principle to wearing lined clothing.

Let me know if you find these tips useful!

If anyone out there has any other great tips and life-hacks on how to hide cameltoe, please let me know and I will share them on here!

Clare xo

How to get rid of fordyce spots on my labia

1 2 How to get rid of fordyce spots on my labiaAs you can see I have an extreme case of fordyce spots. Please let me know how to get rid of fordyce spots on my labia minora.

Fordyce spots are a natural occurrence as a result of Fordyce sebum (oil) getting trapped in the sebaceous gland. They are harmless but are often a concern from a cosmetic perspective. What many people don’t know is that about 70% to 80% of people have fordyce spots to differing extents somewhere on their bodies.

Generally, it is not recommended that medical or surgical steps be taken to get rid of fordyce spots as they are harlmess, and most “treatments” for them do more harm than good.

Some tips and natural remedies which can help to alleviate or reduce the prominence of fordyce spots include:

  • Maintaining good hygiene down there and use antibacterial soap, especially if you use essential oils.
  • Wearing loose-fitting underwear, preferably made from breathable stretch-material (to avoid sweating in your genital region).
  • Coconut oil (which acts as a moisturiser and reduces fordyce spots which are exacerbated by dehydration).
  • Increasing your daily vitamin intake – oranges and broccoli (the widely hated vegetable among children!) is reported to cause a reduction in fordyce spots.
  • Tea tree oil (which acts as a natural antiseptic that prevents bacterial growth and relieves the inflamed skin).
  • Turmeric powder (which has antiseptic and antibacterial properties) – 1/4 teaspoon combined with apple cider vinegar can be applied to inflamed skin.
  • Have a cold oatmeal bath (which reduces itching, redness and skin inflammation).
  • Jojoba oil (which also has antibacterial properties and acts as a moisturizer).
  • Aloe vera gel (which has antibacterial and anti-fungal properties) – either cut the stalk of the aloe plant and apply the gel to the skin, or buy aloe vera gel from a health store and apply it.

Let me know if any of these tips and remedies help!

Clare xo

Should I shave or wax my vagina?

So I’ve got a question. I want to start keeping my pubic hair groomed. Should I shave or wax my vagina? I have some friends who prefer to wax, but I know it can be very expensive and I’ve heard that it can be painful. What is the best way to go?

Both shaving and waxing have their advantages and disadvantages, and at the end of the day, it is a matter of personal choice. I personally prefer waxing.

Here are some of the pros and cons of each hair removal method:

Waxing – the pro’s:

  • Waxing needs to be done less frequently than shaving, as the re-growth usually takes a few weeks to come back.
  • Waxing generally gives you a smoother feel than shaving.
  • The re-growth usually gets thinner after a while.
  • You don’t have to deal with razor cuts or nicks.

Waxing – the cons:

  • Waxing can be quite a painful experience, especially in the sensitive area between the outer labia and the inner labia.
  • You have to let the hair grow back to a certain length before it can be waxed again.
  • Waxing can be quite expensive (when done professionally at a salon).
  • Waxing can cause ingrown hairs.
  • You might get wax burns or scarring (although this is less likely if you have a good aesthetician).

Shaving – the pro’s:

  • Shaving is much cheaper than waxing, and unlike waxing, can easily be done at home.
  • You do not have to allow the hair to grow out to a certain length before shaving again (unlike with waxing).
  • If shaving is done properly, ingrown hairs can be avoided.

Shaving – the cons:

  • Shaving often leaves black / visible stubble.
  • The re-growth appears within one to three days, and can be spiky and uncomfortable.
  • The re-growth does not get thinner over time.
  • If you are not careful, you might get nicks and cuts from shaving.

Clare xo