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This blog is driven by submissions from users of their pictures, experiences and stories. Submissions are a huge help to others who may be going through the same struggles. To make a submission, e-mail

All submissions are treated with the strictest discretion and confidence, and your name will never be published on the site.

Don’t have a slit or outer labia

Hi Clare, I love your website.  I’m 14 (I’ll be 15 in July) and I have very low body fat and a lot of muscle tone for a girl.  Since I don’t have much body fat, I really don’t have a slit or outer labia.  It’s just flat down there and my inner labia show at the bottom.  I’ve been this way for as long as I can remember.  I didn’t know I was different until I was in grade school and changed in front of other girls for swimming lessons.  I noticed the other girls looked different and some of them kind of stared at me down there.  My inner labia were really tiny back then and barely visible.  I asked my mom about it and she told me I didn’t have any outer labia because I had very low body fat but eventually I would when my body fat increased.

Well I still don’t have much body fat and my inner labia have grown some and are quite visible now.  When I was in middle school I was very self-conscious when changing in front of other girls but i guess I’m getting used to it.  I really don’t have any hair yet to hide it either.

I’ve seen a few pics online of athletic girls that look like me down there and I’ve chatted with some that said they were the same but I know it’s not too common.  I’m sorry but I can’t send you a pic since I’m only 14.

Thanks for your wonderful website!

Thank you for your lovely message 🙂

I can assure you that you are completely normal and have nothing to worry about. The perception out there is that only one type of vulva is normal and all others are abnormal, but it is exactly the opposite – diversity is normal, and every body (and vulva) is unique and looks different from the next.

It’s also normal for the labia minora (inner labia) to change over time, including becoming longer and more pronounced in some people. It is equally normal for this not to happen in other people.

You are at an age where it is normal to experience body-issues, and this website is intended to be a resource for everyone who experiences such issues. Don’t let the perceptions of others (who are probably misinformed) get you down. Rather try to enjoy this special phase of your life, and get to know and love yourself and your body.

Feel free to contact me in confidence anytime if you want to chat more or discuss any specific issues.

Clare xo

My hairy vagina

my hairy vaginaspread vaginal lipsinner vaginal lipsIm 23 years old. I visit the site almost every day and want to help out by submitting some pics. The pics show my hairy vagina in different stages from when it is closed to when I spread the lips open. Keep up the great work with the site!

Thank you for your words of support and for your lovely submission 🙂

Clare xo

Buzzing in my vaginal area

I have a buzzing in my vaginal area.  It is internal (feels like it’s inside my vagina). It started last Friday afternoon. It’s driving me crazy. I’m exhausted, it doesn’t stop. When it started I was thinking that either I was sitting on my cell phone or my cell phone is nearby. It feels like someone placed and electric tooth brush inside of my vagina. I just want it to stop so I can go to sleep!

Side note: about a year or two ago something similar happened with my eyelid. Random tingling/twitching which lasted for a few weeks and never came back!

Based on my online research into your condition, it could be caused by a magnesium deficiency. It could also be muscular or neurological.

Many women claim  that magnesium supplements have helped to alleviate or remove the buzzing sensation. You can get a supplement at a drug store and see if it helps.

If it doesn’t help, I recommend seeing a gynecologist for expert advice.

Clare xo

Roundish thing sticking out of my vaginal opening

Im 15 and, ive had this roundish thing sticking out of my vaginal opening, its about 2cms long, like a tube but its just all flesh, i dont feel anything when its touched. I suspected that is was just my hymen, and ive read that your hymen can break even if your a virgin (which i am). But then i read that the remnants of the hymen are usually found on the bottom of the vaginal opening and this piece of flesh is protruding out of the top, i checked the bottom and there was another, smaller piece there too, is it normal to have 2 pieces of the hymen at both ends of the opening or should i be worried?

In all likelihood there is nothing for you to worry about, especially if you are not experiencing any physical pain or discomfort. It may simply be some redundant tissue that you can live with or that can be easily removed by a gynecologist. To be sure, I would suggest that you see a gynecologist to get an expert opinion.

Please send me an update on what the diagnosis is once you have seen a gynecologist. You are also welcome to contact me at

Clare xo

Pouty outer vagina lips

Pouty outer vagina lips spreading my outer vagina lipsHi Clare! I love what you are doing on here and wanted to share 🙂 I have pouty outer vagina lips which hide my inner lips. As you can see my inner lips only show when I spread my outer vagina lips open.

I have had 8 sexual partners in my life including my current boyfriend and I have never received a negative comment. In fact men have either commented positively about my vagina after going down on me or shown that they are really into me through their actions during the session (I won’t go into the graphic details ha ha!).

Ladies, love your vaginas as they are!

Thanks for your lovely message and pictures.

Clare xo

Red itchy sore vagina

I’m 22 years old from Holland. Ever since last summer, I’ve had a red itchy sore vagina. Some days are worse then others.

I’ve used hormone cream, been treated for yeast infections three times, swabs were clear and nothing seems to work. No STD’s either. I’m starting to get desperate.

My gynecologist said that he couldn’t see anything odd except for my hymen still being . Now I need to ‘train’ the hymen, but it doesn’t explain the rest of my vulva being so painful.

My doctor wants me to have sex more it for the hymen but I feel like it’s only getting worse. During sex it’s okay, but afterwards I get the stinging feeling again. Even without having sex, I sometimes get that feeling suddenly.

There are days when I think it’s improving, and then later that day it gets really sore and red. There just doesn’t seem to be a clear reason for it. Any advice would be appreciated.

There are many conditions that could cause a red itchy sore vagina including Vulvodynia (persistent pain in the vulva area), Bacterial Vaginosis, Lichen Scelrosus and other infections.

I understand that you are frustrated that your gynecologist does not seem to have identified the problem and the solution. However, self-diagnosis through the internet is almost never a good idea.

You should see another doctor and get a second opinion.

Please keep me posted on how things go 🙂

Clare xo

Treatment for lichen sclerosus on labia (pics)

lichen sclerosus on labia 2 treatment for lichen sclerosus on labiaI have had bumps and patchy white skin around my vaginal entrance since I was much younger before I was sexually active. I am in my 20’s, and my research online seems to point to this being lichen sclerosus. I know that it can’t be a STI because it was there before I had sexual contact with anyone. It is itchy especially at night and sex can be painful when it is acting up. What are my options for treatment for lichen sclerosus on labia?

While there is no cure for the hereditary skin condition known as lichen sclerosus, there are a number of things that can be done to ease the discomfort that it causes and reduce the severity of the symptoms. Doctors usually prescribe steroid creams, and if these do not work, immuno-suppressants are sometimes recommended.

I suggest that you see a dermatologist who can give you a proper diagnosis (self-diagnosis using Google is often very unreliable) and who can recommend an appropriate treatment plan for you.

Clare xo

I have thick white creamy vaginal discharge

I normally have clear discharge but there have been changes in the past few days and i am worried that something may be wrong. Why do i have thick white creamy vaginal discharge? When i take off my panties at the end of the day they are full and I mean FULL of the stuff. Could it be an infection? Or pregnancy? I have not yet done a pregnancy test.

There are many factors which can cause thick white creamy vaginal discharge.

For most of a woman’s monthly cycle, the discharge is usually clear and thin, but can be a light white color. During the early and late parts of the cycle, the vaginal discharge becomes whiter and thicker than normal, and ovulation makes the discharge more slimy in consistency.

During pregnancy, vaginal discharge also becomes thicker and white in color, and looks similar to egg-white. This is because a mucous plug is formed outside the opening of the cervix to act as a protective barrier and to prevent bacteria and infections from entering the vagina.

A fungal or yeast infection, such as candida, can also result in white, thick discharge. Such infections are very common and can usually be easily treated. The discharge is usually thicker, and may be chunky with the consistency of cottage cheese.

It would be a good idea for you to get a pregnancy test to exclude the possibility of pregnancy – if you are pregnant, it’s better to know early so that you can make the appropriate lifestyle changes that go with pregnancy.

If you are experiencing any symptoms such as itchiness or pain, it would be a good idea to see a gynecologist to get an expert opinion. Your gynecologist may be able to immediately tell you the cause of the white creamy vaginal discharge, or may send a sample of the discharge to a laboratory for testing in order to identify the cause.

Clare xo

I have an outie clitoris

I am seventeen years old and I have an outie clitoris. That’s how I ended up on this site.

My boyfriend and I are sexually active and have sex regularly. I didn’t know what to do about it, he’s never said anything about it but all of my friends looked normal. I didn’t know what was wrong with me.

Every single one of the pornos I’ve seen the girl has the perfect tiny clit and I have been SO self-conscious about. I don’t like it at all but he says he likes it and he says it’s hot regardless of what I say so I guess it just depends on the guy.

The truth is, most guys won’t care whether the clitoris is larger or smaller, or whether it is more exposed or hidden. Remember, the clitoris is there to be source of pleasure and not a source of anxiety.

There are countless variations out there (from women with tiny hidden clitorises, to women with clitorises that swell when they are aroused). All of them are completely normal.

Depictions of women in mainstream porn are skewed and are certainly not representative of the huge array of variations of vulva physiology that is out there.

Clare xo