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My vagina lips get pulled on during sex

My vagina lips get pulled on during sexMy vagina lips get pulled on during sex sometimes because they stick out. I’ve always been self-conscious about them and I’m always trying to tuck them inside.

I have found that men really like it because they love looking at vaginas and mine is a very out there, in your face, no hiding it kind.

Funny though, even though I know this, I still try to tuck them up there at work! Lol!

Any tips to solve the problem that my vagina lips get pulled on during sex?

Thanks for getting in touch 🙂

You could try using a lubricant during sex to reduce the friction and pulling of your labia minora during penetration.

Also, make sure that you are fully aroused before penetration as this creates natural lubrication and the opening of the vaginal canal, so plenty of foreplay is a good idea.

Water-based lubricants are the best, and they are also safe to use with condoms.

I hope this helps!

Clare xo

Grossed out by my outie vagina

I used to be grossed out by my outie vagina. Since finding this site, I realize that my outie is not at all gross and my vagina is quite lovely without being tucked in.

I’m really sad that so many of my fellow outies feel ashamed of their perfectly normal, healthy vaginas.

Vulvas don’t come completely bald and tucked-in

Not every guy has a massive erection that is at a 90 degree+ angle, clean shaven and circumcised. Not every girl has enormous, perfectly symmetrical, perfectly perky boobs with no ‘judder’ unless they have implants. Vulvas don’t come completely bald and tucked-in like a little girl with small labia.

Humans are massively varied in every aspect. I think the advent of easily accessible porn has given a false idea of what people actually look like.

Ho hum. Not sure what to say, except if someone dumped someone over the appearance of their genitals, I would doubt whether the relationship had much of a chance anyway.

Vulva art – abundant pubic hair

Abundant pubic hairThe ninth installment in the vulva art project series – abundant pubic hair.

The picture depicts female genitalia with pubic hair which has not been shaved, waxed or trimmed.

Contrary to earlier fashion trends, many modern women are allowing their pubic hair to grow out, which has many benefits including providing cushioning and protection against chafing, and providing protection against bacteria.

Clare xo

Recovering anorexic with a thigh gap

recovering anorexic with a thigh gapI have had body issues all my life. I am a recovering anorexic with a thigh gap and a pierced clitoris. With lots of counseling, I am finally starting to embrace my body as it is. I do still have days when things are difficult and I am disgusted by what I see in the mirror. Thankfully that is less often than before. I am hoping that sharing my picture will be a big step in my journey towards self-acceptance.

Thank you for sharing your story.

I am so glad to hear that you are becoming more accepting of your body and are making such amazing progress in embracing your body as it is.

I am also happy to hear that you were brave enough to seek professional help. Far too many women live with their struggles instead of seeking help and overcoming them.

If you ever need someone to chat to or a sympathetic ear to listen, you are welcome to get in touch with me at

Clare xo

Discoloration of my vaginal folds

discoloration of my vaginal foldsI am 18 years old. I have had lots of sex and I am wondering if the discoloration of my vaginal folds was caused by this. I have also masturbated a lot since the start of my teen years. It used to be pink but it has turned light brown. I keep it very clean so the ‘dirty’ brown colour is not caused by hygiene. I am very worried. Please help.

Sex and masturbation have no effect on the colour of your labia. Many women experience changes to the colour of their labia over their lifetimes, and there is nothing for you to worry about.

Colour changes can come about due to an increase in melanin in the labia as a result of hormonal changes, pregnancy or genetics.

There is a big spectrum of colour variations when it comes to labia, ranging from light pink to purple and brown. Yours are well within that range.

Clare xo

No gold standard for a beautiful vagina

I’m a nurse and in my line of work, I have seen a lot of labia and vaginas. No two have ever been the same. There is no gold standard for a beautiful vagina. And I personally don’t think that there is such a thing as a good-looking vagina and/or labia. They’re all pretty strange looking. For most men, a vagina is a thing of beauty regardless of its shape or size because it is a source of pleasure for them.

Thank you so much for sharing your insights. It is always great to get the perspective of a professional who encounters labia and vaginas on a regular basis – it really puts things into context as most women measure themselves against unrealistic standards which are not representative of the average woman.

Hopefully your insights will help the thousands of women out there who experience insecurities because they think that they fall short of the gold standard for a beautiful vagina.

Clare xo

Pudgy outer vaginal lips

pudgy outer vaginal lipsHey everyone, I too have long inner vaginal lips and pudgy outer vaginal lips! Don’t worry! Take a look at ALL the submissions on this site by hundreds of us women that have the exact same “problem” and you will realize that it’s actually EXTREMELY normal!

I was so ashamed of my vagina that I wouldn’t even wear swimsuits without shorts til my 20’s. I worried and cried about it literally DAILY. But I feel so free now knowing it’s completely normal and accepting my body the way it is. You should too! You will feel much better if you accept yourself and don’t worry… Guys sure don’t worry about it at all!!!!

Hope this helps at least 1 girl who suffered as much as I did to realize it’s not worth ruining your life worrying over, LOVE YOURSELF!! 🙂

Thank you so much for your lovely picture and your message of support!

Clare xo