Can I use numbing cream on my vagina?

can i use numbing cream on my vaginaI want to get laser hair removal on my vagina but I have heard that it can be very sore. Can I use numbing cream on my vagina?

The skin in the vulva area is very delicate, and laser hair removal can be very painful, especially for those with a low pain threshold.

There are a number of topical anesthetic creams which are sold over the counter without a prescription, and can be used to numb the area before undergoing a session. They should generally be applied 15 – 30 minutes before the session, and they result in temporary numbness in the area, usually not lasting more than an hour.

Check with your local drugstore for topical anesthetic creams that are safe for use in sensitive areas like the vulva. It is also a good idea to read the package insert for details about side-effects and sensitivity commonly experienced with the product.

Clare xo

How to get rid of ingrown hairs on the labia

Get rid of ingrown hairs on the labiaMany women who shave or wax their vulvas suffer with ingrown hair. We have put together a quick guide on how to get rid of ingrown hairs on the labia.

Before you get started, make sure you have the following essential items close at hand:

  • Tweezers and a needle or pin. Burn the edge with a flame to sterilise it
  • Tissue paper
  • A mild disinfectant

The first step, once you have collected these items, is to take a warm shower or bath. This will help to open the hair follicles, which will make it easier to extract the ingrown hair. After the shower or bath, dry the skin in the area.

Once you have done so, the next step will be to remove the hair which is curled up under your skin. Don’t wait too long after drying the area, as the follicles must still be open when you remove the hair.

To remove the hair, gently break the skin at the top of the raised area with the sterilised needle or pin, locate the hair with the sharp point of the needle or pin, and slide the needle or pin underneath the hair to pull it to the surface of the skin.

Once enough of the hair is exposed to grab hold of it with the tweezers, use the tweezers to firmly but slowly pull it out. Wipe the area clean with the tissue paper, and apply the mild disinfectant to the area.

Apply more disinfectant once or twice a day for the next couple of days, until the skin heals – the key here is to keep the area clean to avoid infection or bacterial getting into the broken skin. You don’t want other infections in the area which can be even more unpleasant than the ingrown hair that you had before.

Once the skin in the area has healed fully, make sure that you exfoliate it regularly to avoid the ingrown hair coming back (but be gentle, as the area is delicate and can be sensitive).

I have an outie clitoris

I am seventeen years old and I have an outie clitoris. That’s how I ended up on this site.

My boyfriend and I are sexually active and have sex regularly. I didn’t know what to do about it, he’s never said anything about it but all of my friends looked normal. I didn’t know what was wrong with me.

Every single one of the pornos I’ve seen the girl has the perfect tiny clit and I have been SO self-conscious about. I don’t like it at all but he says he likes it and he says it’s hot regardless of what I say so I guess it just depends on the guy.

The truth is, most guys won’t care whether the clitoris is larger or smaller, or whether it is more exposed or hidden. Remember, the clitoris is there to be source of pleasure and not a source of anxiety.

There are countless variations out there (from women with tiny hidden clitorises, to women with clitorises that swell when they are aroused). All of them are completely normal.

Depictions of women in mainstream porn are skewed and are certainly not representative of the huge array of variations of vulva physiology that is out there.

Clare xo

I have a pretty nice vagina

Ummm… Ya know… I have a vagina. It’s a pretty nice vagina. It functions as any other vagina that is healthy and in working order does… it bleeds once a month, it allows me to have orgasms whenever I or my fiance stimulate it just right. It’s never too wet or too dry, so we don’t need to use lube or any other help. It’s a pretty decent one, as far as vaginas go, I guess. I’ve never really cared to compare it to other vaginas.

One labia hangs down lower than the other

one labia hangs down lower than the other 2 one labia hangs down lower than the otherMy inner labia are asymmetrical, and I used to be a bit self-conscious about that. Basically one labia hangs down lower than the other.

I remember one of the first times I ever went to a gyno, I was watching the exam with a mirror, and I saw the doctor briefly looked at the bigger one with what I thought was a kind of puzzled expression. Whether she actually made that expression or I imagined it, it freaked me out for the longest time. I thought, this woman sees pussies all day, so if she thinks mine is weird than it must be really weird!

Like most of the other posters who said they were self-conscious when they were younger but less so now, I’m pretty much over caring about the asymmetry of it. When I first heard about plastic surgery options for the vulva, I briefly entertained the idea, but I decided it’s certainly not an issue worth all that time, pain, and money.

I may not have ever been told mine’s the prettiest pussy someone’s ever seen, but I have been told it’s the best he’s ever had. That’s more important in my book (especially with someone you care about). And I’ve never been told it’s weird or gross looking.

I think saying “pussy is pussy” from a man’s perspective is over-simplifying a bit, because they can certainly see and appreciate the fact that every woman is different. I do agree that they are in awe just to see it, though, and aren’t nearly as critical as we are.

Besides, my pussy’s way prettier than any ballsack, (yuck!), asymmetrical or not.

Thanks for your lovely submission 🙂 I absolutely love your positive attitude!

Clare xo

What is the growth at my vaginal entrance?

What is the growth at my vaginal entrance 2 What is the growth at my vaginal entranceWhat is the growth at my vaginal entrance? I am 24 years old and I have had sex a few times.

I don’t experience pain but I do have discomfort during sex as the growth makes it difficult for my boyfriend’s penis to penetrate me.

The tissue that you are referring to looks like the remnants of your hymen which was probably torn the first time you had sex or during another physical activity such as horse-riding.

It is nothing to be concerned about, but if it causes major discomfort during sex, it can easily be removed by a gynecologist or surgeon under local anesthetic.

Clare xo

My inner vagina lips get in the way during sex

I am often contacted by women who complain that “my inner vagina lips get in the way during sex” or “my labia get caught during sex”.

It is a common problem experienced by women who have labia minora that protrude from their labia majora, and it can often be a source of great anxiety and discomfort which prevents women from enjoying sex. It is, however, an issue that usually has a straightforward solution.

Check out this useful video by Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross of www.dodsonandross.com, two women who run a site packed with useful information about sex and masturbation. It contains some excellent tips on solving the problem:

 

Embarrassed by my outie labia

I have to admit that I am embarrassed by my outie labia.  Growing up I felt that it was abnormal.  I also wondered if after having my babies whether any obs or midwives ever thought it looked awful.

My husband has never had any complaints but then he loves me for me, not how I look, hell, he loves me even though I am overweight with a very large spare tyre and adult acne

I have never been a self confident person about my appearance and this is just another aspect of myself that I am self conscious of.

You are among the roughly 50% of women everywhere who have labia minora that protrude outside of their labia majora.  That statistic alone should show you how normal it is to have “outie labia”.

It is fantastic to hear that you have a loving husband who loves you as you are. I hope that in time, you will come to accept and embrace yourself as your husband accepts and embraces you. He sounds like a great catch – hang onto him!

Thanks for sharing 🙂

Clare xo

What causes a puffy swollen vagina during pregnancy

What causes a puffy swollen vagina during pregnancyI am 6 months pregnant and in the past few weeks I’ve noticed that my vagina is swollen. What causes a puffy swollen vagina during pregnancy?

It has also started to get very itchy, enough to wake me up at night. I started use wipes to clean myself but nothing seems to be helping. I haven’t asked my doc yet but I will at my next appointment.

There is an increase in blood flow to the area during pregnancy, as well as huge hormonal changes. All of this can cause swelling, itching or varicose veins in the vulva.

Here are some tips which might help:

  • Keep it cool and dry.
  • Do not wear any tight or synthetic clothes.
  • Wear only cotton panties or no panties at all (obviously only when it is safe to do so).
  • Wash well in all the folds with normal water and your fingers.
  • Pat yourself dry whenever you get wet down there.
  • Use ice packs covered in towels to cool it down and bring down the swelling.
  • Sit with your legs open to allow air to circulate (also only when it is safe to do so!).

Clare xo